Gay's Have More Stamina Than Straight Guys!?

I recently read this on an old Google Group... I know its a couple of years old, but I found it an excellent read and it certainly got me thinking. I will be very interested to here all your thoughts!

Start of article posted by James --->
I've noticed some differences between gay men and straight men (besides the obvious). Well, first of all, I collect gay and straight porno movies. I've noticed that straight scenes usually last 10 minutes or less. Gay scenes however are usually always over 10 minutes, probably and average of 15 minutes and some well, a lot actually, go on for 20 or 30 minutes. Also, I hear a lot of stories from gay friends of 'going all night', 'using up a whole bottle of lube', etc. I don't think this is just bragging. I'm gay and want sex, when it's good at least, to last as long as possible and that's typically an hour or two before I have my first orgasm. Also, I hear straight women complain that their male partners often roll over and go to sleep after sex and don't cuddle or talk to them like they'd
want them to. However I've noticed a tendency toward 'afterplay' in gay sexual hijinks. Moreso than straights? I don't know. My question is do you people think gay men 'last longer' than straight men, and if so why? My own personal theory (besides a suspicion that it might be something biological) is that a lot of gay 'coupling' is of an immediate nature... there are a lot of situations like in back rooms, bath houses, glory holes, tea rooms, even cyberspace where some gay men gather for no other reason than for sex. There's none of the ritualistic 'wooing and cooing, take me out to dinner, flirting, cajoling' type of pre-activity in these situations that you find in most straight 'sexual/social' situations. Could it be that energy is saved by bypassing the 'pleasantries' (which could take all night or even weeks) and that energy is used during sex? Basically what I'm saying is that since the 'mating rituals' of gays and straights are different straight men run out of energy quickly or 'relatively quickly' because they've spent so much energy trying to get their partner in bed?

The other reason could be biologically ardwired. Heterosexual mating rituals are probably programmed to be more 'careful and cautious' (i.e. slow and energy consuming) so that each partner can determine (or at least the woman) if the potential partner would be a good mate.... after all one could say that the genes 'think' that in a straight mating situation one should be careful cuz a potential offspring could result. Flirting, dating, 'getting to know one another' would, I think, work as a way to select good genes you want to mix yours with. With gays, however, there's less of a need for this, at least on a biological level, since no offspring can result. Have I answered my own question?
What do you all think?
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Posted: Tuesday 23rd March 2004, 12:00 AM

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